Hey guys, this is my own experience of a long distance relationship, for people who have been there or going through it as we speak I just thought I would share my LDR (long distance relationship) I hope you guys can relate to this even more now with all these dating/chat apps now available.
Back in 2013 I split from my ex, moved out of the property and my mate/work colleague was good enough to let me move in. After several months of being single I started using an app called Scout, you can set the filter so it only does UK I thought I had done this but after a few days I got speaking to my future wife I didn’t realise I hadn’t set it to UK and realised Regina was in Philippines. At first I didn’t know what to think, it was just good speaking to someone in the winter nights when you’re stuck in. It was good getting to know all about her country, the way of living compared to ours and even trying to understand her accent.
After a few weeks of talking and texting I thought this is a great solution compared to full on dating, I didn’t want nothing serious because I’ve just come out of an 8 year relationship and Regina was in the same boat she’s just finished a serious relationship and she was on this app to improve her English as she was planning on moving abroad. After several months of telephone calls, Skyping and texting our feelings was getting stronger I already had a holiday booked for Thailand in November 2014 which is 3.5 hours away from Philippines I started wondering to myself should I ask her to meet me in Thailand, after 6 or 7 months of chatting I did pop the question to come and meet me at first she was very unsure due to work commitments and money, I knew from our chats that Philippine’s is a poor country and money is an issue hence why Regina was looking to move abroad for better opportunities. Regina managed to get the time off work for 5 days and I sorted out the air tickets it was all good, in our LDR this gave us something to look forward to and to be fair after 7 months of chatting we needed this.
Throughout the first 3 months the LDR was very easy it was all new, exciting and getting to know each, we had so much to speak about, however it was very hard to arrange a time to chat because of the time difference, the time difference between UK and Philippines is either 7 or 8 hours depending on the time of the year. The internet connection in Phi is really bad its like going back to 1990’s with dial-up, it’s awful so if we do get the time right youre are also praying for a good signal, after you have conquered all this and your phone finally connects it’s the best feeling in the world we used to chat up to 3 times a day from 10 mins to 3 hours depending on work etc, Most of my breaks in work I would be on the phone I should have lost weight as I wouldn’t eat on my lunch as I was to busy talking haha, at home I would have stayed up late waiting for my wife to wake up at 6am at times it was hard going but knowing that we where on the verge of meeting up it got us through.
I am a relaxed/chilled out guy, but I must admit a LDR does take you close to the line, I mean there would be times when my wife’s mobile would break and it could be a couple of days before we could connect again or plans might come up right at the last minute and your mind does start to wonder if she’s not interested anymore, even at birthday’s and Christmas’s you can’t be with them you can however send them stuff through a courier but when its travelling over 6,000 miles it could take weeks before it arrives.
The good news about our LDR was that we was meeting up in Thailand after year of chatting this sparked our relationship again and when we got back home my wife’s visa to Malta (Europe) was accepted so a couple of months later she was only 4 hours away flying. In 2015 I flew to Malta several times and then we married, the best day of my life, it might have been on a budget due to all travelling I mean a guy in a normal job flying out to Thailand for 4 weeks then Malta 4 times finances went down the drain, even though I loved every moment meeting up with Regina it was also horrible because after 1 week or 10 days it was time to come back on my home, due to work commitments it was horrible. Even when I did arrive home after our marriage, I couldn’t get back out due to working on our visa.
I really do think when you are stuck in LDR you really do need to plan for your future together, because if the LDR doesn’t go anywhere then it will be over in no time, it doesn’t matter how strong the love is you both need to be committed 100% don’t smoother each other, don’t get jealous, I did at times but Regina’s friends always reassured me my wife is committed to me, to be honest a lot of credit needs to go out to her mates they calmed me down when times got rough and when I finally did meet them it was alot easier to chat to them.
There are so many highs and lows in a LDR but I wouldn’t do it again and I really feel sorry for the guys and gals that live away working to help their family back home. Proud of ya’s.
Sort it out 😂😂😂
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